"Arguing about feelings is futile. People feel what they feel whether you think they have the right to or not. People have all kinds of feelings that are unreasonable. It's counterproductive to judge your own or others' feelings, and if you can learn to have compassion instead, you will be more insightful and effective at resolving conflict."

Your body sits silently;

Your mind is quiescent, unmoving.

This is genuine effort in practice.

Body and mind are at complete rest.

The mouth is so still that mossGrows around it.

Grass sprouts from the tongue.

Do this without ceasing,

Cleansing the mind

Until it gains clarity

Of an autumn pool,

Bright as the moon

Illuminating the evening sky.

''Breakdown can lead to breakthrough.

Sometimes we to be pushed against the wall - personally and globally - if we are going to take a quantum leap, if we are going to metamorphose into butterflies."

The Shape of Love

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What we see is not the most important.

Could dust rise without the invisiblehand of the wind?

Could a fan turn without any current?

Could lungs breathe without breath?

Tell meWhat is the shape of Love?

How much does Joy weighwhen held in the palm of your hand?

Can you catch the Spirit of Life in a jar?

All things seen dependupon the Unseen.

All sounds depend upon Silence.

All things felt dependupon what is not felt.

Look for the Fear Behind Other People's Attempts to Control You Instead of getting irritated with someone who tries to control you, try to tell what form of fear motivates their behavior. If you can soothe those fears, the control will diminish. Yet you may have to rely on your own insight and intuition, because controllers seldom know the fears that motivate them. In fact, if you asked what they were afraid of, they would probably say, “Nothing.” But if you can discover the fear that drives them, you'll be better able to respond with compassion instead of your own fear or anger. Defensiveness and anger tend to increase the fear of controllers, making them even more controlling, so trying to control a controller is a sure-fire formula for power struggle. Instead, begin by mastering your reaction to their behavior. Understanding, compassion, and self-control are the abilities you need to co-create with controlling people.